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hey there, you!

posted on : 17 October, 2020 posted by : pamebell 0 Comment

Thanks for visiting my personal blog! Due to a strange backend tech disaster, the old version of this site was completely lost. This is the primary digital hub of my writing online — a true passion project with no timelines or external pressure — so I’ll be slowly but surely (I mean, we are in the midst of a global pandemic) piecing together the newest iteration of this site. Please “pardon the dust” as we undergo construction here! Thank you for your patience & for holding space for great imperfection 😀 PS – yes, all the old…

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holidays,personal responsibility

valentines week & a do-over

posted on : 14 February, 2018 0 Comment

It’s Valentines Week! I know, I know. V-Day gets a bad rap among the cynics. But I’ve always loved it. Since I was, like, eight years old, and boys were not even a thing yet. Even when I was perpetually single and had essentially built my entire identity on being free as a bird, and ain’t nobody was gonna tie me down. And now, as Anthony and I are coming down from our seven-year anniversary and celebrating the closing of our first house together, I still frickin’ love Valentine’s Day. I asked…

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befriending the dark,embodied living,healing sexual shame,personal responsibility,radical self care,relating,self-expression,spirituality

red tent revival returns 17-21 may

posted on : 15 May, 2015 0 Comment

Today I heard a woman named Kristin Sweeting Morelli say something that rocked my world. “Shame can only live in darkness.” She said it in the context of people — of women in particular — keeping to themselves the things they were most ashamed of about themselves and their experiences, whether they were at fault or not. Shame doesn’t belong only to the miscreants, the cheaters, the liars, the politicians. Everyone carries shame about something in their lives, and in our world today, women feel shame surrounding so much. Shame for being fat. For being old. For being educated. For…

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personal responsibility,self-expression

coming up for air — a return to what matters

posted on : 4 February, 2015 0 Comment

*crickets* *crickets* I’ve taken a seemingly infinite hiatus. This has been a problem — not only for you, my cherished readers, but mostly, and ironically, for me. I mean, have I seriously not posted a thing since 2013?! Wow. The truth is, I’ve been going through a heavy period of transition. As clichĂ© and overhyped as “I’m finding myself” may sound, it’s honestly been what I’ve been doing. It’s still too early to go into much detail — kind of like touching too much after having just applied nail polish — but I recently parted ways with…

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empathy & accountability,entrepreneurship,personal development,personal responsibility

[rant] did i express a need or a desire?

posted on : 13 August, 2013 0 Comment

I’ve been eager to address this issue on my blog for a while . . . With travel in July and then an absolutely transformative extended weekend “spirit staycation” in Schaumburg at Tony Robbins’s legendary Unleash the Power Within seminar that then set dynamite to so much of my life, it’s taken me this long to truly get settled back into the everyday of normal life. (I tend to take the time I need to reset.) Anyway, I’m back, baby! Today I’d like to talk about the concept of creating needs in prospective clients. As businesspeople (or salespeople…

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empathy & accountability,holidays,personal responsibility,relating

the holiday spirit

posted on : 24 December, 2011 0 Comment

Christmas Eve covers a whole variety of sins, doesn’t it? Those of us guilty of sloth despite the uninhibited and shameless insanity of Black Friday brace ourselves for possible attacks by others as culpable of the same crime. Viscous traffic that clogs the commercial streets is ubiquitous. There is a tension in the crowds everywhere that might affect even the most Zen of citizens. As I ran errands this morning, I nearly ran over probably four small children by accident — they’re like little gnomes that sneak up behind you as you obliviously slide into your car and begin…

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